Larasati Silalahi

..Till It’s Gone. Biasanya sih lanjutan kalimatnya seperti itu. Menurut saya, kalimat itu benar adanya, sudah terlalu banyak contoh cerita di sekeliling saya. Yang paling ‘hangat’ mungkin cerita tentang perusahaan yang baru mulai panik memikirkan kebutuhan karyawannya ketika si karyawan ‘mengancam’ akan resign.

Kebetulan ada beberapa teman yang mengalami hal yang sama belakangan ini. Mereka ingin resign, lalu perusahaan menawarkan bonus ini itu, jabatan baru, tanggung jawab baru, gaji naik, dan sebagainya. Membuat saya jadi berpikir, kalau saja karyawan tersebut tidak ‘mengancam’ akan keluar, apakah semua apresiasi tersebut tidak akan pernah diberikan? Membuat saya jadi ingin bertanya, “Kalau kita ditawarkan sesuatu yang lebih baik karena kita ‘mengancam’, apakah tandanya kita tidak layak mendapatkannya tanpa ‘ancaman’?” Are we not good enough to get promoted without a letter of resignation?

Ketika mantan akhirnya bilang “You’re still the one” setelah kita mengancam putus atau setelah dia gagal berkali-kali mencoba dengan orang lain, apakah tandanya kita tidak layak untuk dipertahankan dari awalnya? Is ‘you don’t know what you got till it’s gone’ means the ‘it’ didn’t matter much when ‘it’ was still around?

Tapi kemudian pemikiran berikutnya muncul. Lebih baik diapresiasi setelah ‘mengancam’ atau tidak diapresiasi sama sekali ya?

Terkadang memang kita sering tidak peka. Sebagai manusia kita terlebih sering berbicara daripada mendengar, mungkin hal ini juga yang membuat kita sedikit tumpul dalam merasa. Biasanya barulah kita kaget setelah ada kehilangan. Pada akhirnya kehilangan (atau ‘ancaman’ akan kehilangan) bukanlah suatu hal yang buruk atau berada di posisi ke-2. Bisa saja memang fungsinya sebagai peringatan.

Peringatan akan sesuatu yang penting. Seseorang yang penting, yang berarti buat kita. Seseorang yang tidak seharusnya keluar dari perusahaan kita, hubungan percintaan, atau lingkaran persahabatan.

You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone, they said. Well, at least.. You finally realized.

How many times in life people came up to us saying, “I believe you can do it”? That line has become so popular until it lost its meaning, thus we think when people say that out loud, it could (only) be spoken out of pity or obligation.

Well, I have learned that in (my) life, there are more people believe in me more than I do to myself. They constantly throwing facts about what I could do, and I’d instantly disagree. But of course, they’d keep doing that to me (out of love), until I finally can see it for myself.

Who are those people again? Those who’d say, “I believe you can do it.” Those who’d see us to the deepest of our souls. Those who’d go extra miles (just) to listen to what you have in mind. Those who are present and ready to help when you need a little bit of a push.

When you have that kind of people in your life, most probably the wisest thing to do is to listen, and cherish them. Keep them close. Who knows.. there will be times in the future when they need you to say it back to them. “I believe you can do it.”

Funny how the missing feeling could bring up thousands of emotions, including hate. Realize it or not, when we miss someone so badly, we could go so far until the things that we usually hate, suddenly becomes very much missed.

You miss how stubborn this person is.
You miss how annoying this person is.
You miss how messy this person’s car is.
You miss how unbelievably crazy this person’s mind is.

Believe me, when that happens, that just gotta mean something. Because in real life when all the clouds are gone, no one likes a stubborn, annoying, messy, and unbelievably crazy person.

I believe happiness and having fun are for everyone, and it’s got nothing to do with age or circumstances. Being happy is a choice, so is having fun.. that is why I always try to do new things (at least one) every day. Try! You’ll realize how colorful life is, suddenly your problems and burdens look so small when you see them through a happy set of eyes.

What are the things that make you happy and help you to have fun? For me, those are books, music, and surrounded by passionate people. Find the source of your happiness and keep them close.

Want to see how happy I can be? Take a look at this.

Told you. Books. Music. And the people who are passionate for photography.

For you who have never visitied Ambon, Indonesia, you’ve been missing one of the most beautiful things in life Think of Bali beaches, Puncak roads, but less crowded. Much much less crowded. And oh, the beaches.. not just gorgeous, they’re still pretty much virgins. Rare for people, rare for beaches

Don’t start with the food, they have unique varieties of food that you would gladly break your diet for (personal experience!), and please don’t let me start with the generous and warm people in Ambon.

Recommendations to visit in Ambon: Rumah Kopi Joas (coffee house, yummy food and the best tasting coffee), Natsepa Beach (try the fruit rujak), Tirta Kencana (try their kasbi.. evilish sambal! Nyum!). More food to try? Bagea, roti kenari, kasbi, papeda, various fishes (too bad I can’t eat this – vegetarian), nasi kuning, pisang bola-bola, and ampas tarigu.

Staying for five days, teaching some radio classes for 87.7 Rock FM Ambon gave me the privileges to enjoy all of those above. Had a wonderful trip there, and looking forward to my next visit.

What are you waiting for? Stop staring at my blog and start browsing on your flight ticket to Ambon already

One of the strongest signs of contentment is the ability to share. Whatever it is that you have, big or small, significant or insignificant, could always bring impacts once it is shared.

I asked a good friend of mine, Rene Suhardono Canoneo to help out in writing an article for Aplaus The Lifestyle tabloid in Medan that wanted me to share on the ‘passion’ topic. Rene is the man of passion, so who would be better for this?

Again, what we shared perhaps just a little start for all of our Medan friends, but who knows, it could also be a start of something big.

I wonder why a caddy girl who dated a married man and caused a murder could appear on public with a celebrity attitude?

I wonder why a girl who got very traumatized after being abused by her husband would let her story go public through a TV show?

I wonder why TV station would rather air a meaningless show such as a singing contest for those who can’t sing than a life-changing talk show?

I wonder why someone could steal else’s spouse (no empathy to others, let alone caring about public’s opinion) and complain to public (looking for sympathy), after the marriage didn’t work ?

The answer to my questions could be the same. This world’s getting more insane each day. That’s why we need to hold on tight to what keeps us sane.

I’ve been staying in the hospital for two days now, my mom has been having high body temperature. The doctor said, they can’t say anything until around three to five days. This situation is killing me. I don’t really care how many days required to get healed or how much money needed, but at least I need to know what kind of illness that mom’s suffering from. How do we find a cure if we don’t know what we’re curing?

By the way, this thought also applies to our life. We cannot heal our heart if we don’t know which part of our heart that is hurting. We may think it’s the whole part, but we could be wrong. The same thing works for forgiveness. How can we forgive if we don’t know whom to forgive?

Everything comes back to the root of the problem. Do you know what (or who) your problem is?

Here is the first video I did with Axioo! So many to learn about being a great event/wedding organizer! A very inspiring video, indeed

Emil Eriyanto of Multi Kreasi Enterprise (MKE) is one of the best wedding organizers Axioo has had the pleasure of working with.

For more information or to contact Multi Kreasi Enterprise, please call (021) 570-2916 or (021) 570-2055.

Larasati Silalahi wardrobe provided by Urban Twist – Senayan City & Taman Anggrek.

Meet The Vendors – Wedding Organizers from Axioo on Vimeo.

It’s a privilege to do this project together with Axioo! Personally I am a huge fan of their works, I consider working with their dynamic and creative bunch of people as a bonus!

This one’s an interview with Nefi from “Nefi House of Inspiring Decor & Flowers”. For more information or to contact Nefi House, please call (021) 530-6673 or email nefiery@cbn.net.id

Larasati Silalahi wardrobe provided by Urban Twist – Senayan City & Taman Anggrek.

Meet The Vendors – Wedding Decorator from Axioo on Vimeo.